Dateing for bisexural

Now, I know I am just one girl, and this is by no means a well-researched or planned experiment, but I can't help but feel that there are consequences to checking the "bi" box.

I checked the "woman" box and then proceeded to the next question, which asks if you are seeking a woman or a man. I am seeking love, and fun, but ultimately love, and I just don't know if that will be found in a man or a woman.

It strikes me that there are two options: I can 1) choose a gender that is appealing to me right at this moment, or 2) create two separate profiles. ) Then there is OKCupid, an extremely popular site not only because it is free but because it offers an app with a Grinder-type platform, and because it's what all the young NYC kids use these days. This is a little more inclusive, which of course makes me feel better, though it is not truly all-inclusive.

Even if you go on one or two unsuccessful dates during the week, you still give off a vibe at the bar that says, "Yes, I am dating," as opposed to the I-haven't-been-on-a-date-in-three-months vibe that people (annoyingly) tend to pick up on, as if through an extra sense.

Nevertheless, as easy as online dating has become (it's evolved into the mainstream and is popular in New York City and across the country), it is still difficult to navigate as a bisexual woman.

Sure, there are dating sites specifically designed for bisexual women, but they do not have the reach or the users of other, more well-known sites, and frankly, they tend to alienate gay women and straight men.

Because, like many other bi girls, I am attracted to gay women and straight men, I want that exposure.Even if a gay girl is open to dating a bi girl, even if she doesn't harbor preconceived conceptions about bisexual women, my guess is that to make things easier and more streamlined, she is going to search for gay women.To further support this assumption, out of the 24 emails I received within the first 12 hours after creating my profile, I was not contacted by one single female.The first seems less viable, because I truly like both genders, and I hate to be boxed in so tightly. After I check "bisexual," I have the option to click "I do not want to see or be seen by straight people." But wait! In my previous relationships, both short ones and long-lasting ones, I have dated straight men, so of course I want them to be able to view my profile.The second option seems daunting, because, again, if you have ever filled out an online dating profile, you know it is a tedious, aggravating procedure. My profile now states that I am bi and looking for guys and girls who like bi girls. As much as I like to avoid stereotypes, I couldn't help but wonder how many gay women would actively search out bi women on a dating site.I have always been an advocate of online dating, for a variety of reasons.

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